This was a great piece for normal people.

But narcissists feel no nostalgia. My ex has no curiosity about my life. Meaning she doesn’t care if I am alive or dead, single or coupled, healthy or sick, happy or sad. I do not exist in her world.

I know this for a fact. I was in her city for a friend’s wedding a month ago. I know her address. We have had no contact for 9 years since she ended our 6 year relationship with an e-mail.

I took a wild ass chance and dropped off a short message with her doorman letting her know I was in town and offered her an invitation to meet for coffee, nothing more.

She ignored it, probably threw it in the trash. In any case there was no response. I am sure if she had any thought it was “What’s in it for me?” It is how she measures the value of every relationship.

Narcissism is an incurable condition. She will never have a moment of insight. In her view, our relationship failures had nothing whatsoever to do with her behavior.

Getting no answer to my invitation gave me the final closure I needed.

I no longer entertain the fantasy my ex ever thinks about me. Not for one second.