The act of having feelings for someone not your partner, from sharing intimacies to sharing a kiss to sharing a bed isn’t per se cheating.

Lying about it, doing it in secret, THAT IS WHERE THE CHEATING LIES.

I believe monogamy is not a decision you make once at the beginning of a relationship and promise to forsake all others forever (or as long as you are a “couple”).

Monogamy is a choice you make every day. And there are a multitude of choices possible but only if there is communication and agreement by all parties involved or affected.

Whether it is an open relationship, polyamory, swinging, or threesomes, it is all good if it is done with full knowledge and agreement all around.

I personally do not believe my partner is “mine” like some possession. To me, true love is wanting happiness and fulfillment for my partner. That requires giving them their freedom and vice versa.

Monogamy after years together can be predictable and boring AF.

Jealousy of my partner comes from fear of abandonment and insecurity.

Allowing my partner the freedom to be her best and most authentic self is accepting reality and her full humanity.

If she kisses someone else or has sex with them, I love her to bring her joy and energy home and share it with me and not her girlfriends.

How many couples throw away a good relationship over a secret one night stand discovered later.