Thanks. You did answer my questions.

My case is a little different. We were together 6 years, living together the last five.

She broke up with me nine years ago and has been no contact since. I have thought about what happened and clearly see my part in it. I wasn’t the innocent victim I imagined myself to be.

During our last conversation over a dinner I cooked for us, she told me that although she was no longer in love with me I should be ha.py because for the first time in her life she was willing to stay friends.

Sonething changed her mind and she finalized the breakup in an e-mail telling me to forget about her and stop trying to contact her.

Pretty cowerdly way to end a long term relationship.

I tried at first to contact her by e-mail but she never responded. I gave up but never stopped thinking about her and how I screwed up my own life by my own bad behavior.

She lives half way around the world. But I will be a one hour flight away to attend the wedding of a friend I never would had met had I not been dumped.

I know her address. I have left her alone for at least 7 years. I want to see her for coffee. One last meeting to say goodbye face to face. I sent her an invitation to meet.

I owe her plenty of apologies and want to make amends. What I lost can never be replaced.

Since you stayed friends with your ex you are in different circumstances. Maybe you still have an opportunity to be together. You hardly gave it a chance. People don’t change but they do learn and better manage situations and relationships.

I am hopeful that after 9 years, she’ll agree to meet me for coffee in her home town.

But I am not optimistic.

I wish you luck in finding peace.