I’ve watched enough real life nature films to see the mating process in the animal kingdom.

The males fight brutally over the females. The males are often the ones with the colorful appearance and bright feathers. In some species the females hunt for the food while the males stay home.

In very few species do the male and female mate for life. In some cases the male hangs around long enough to sit on the eggs until they hatch. While in other cases, the female kills the male after mating (For all the supposed male aggression, I’ve never seen it the other way around).

In many species, the biological urge to mate is over quickly. The female has sex only for procreation. There is very little affection, and sex for pleasure? Nope, not in the biologic makeup of non-human animals. (Yes, apes and chimps have sex for pleasure and the males are often bi-sexual. They are the closed species to humans).

Humans are the only animal that can mate looking at each other face to face. That alone should be proof that your thesis is hogwash. People are animals but with a brain capable of thought, memory, learning, changing, speaking, writing, planning, and so much more that separates us from the instinctive behavior of animals.

Yes, the purpose of all animals is propagation of the species. Humans are no different in that respect. That is the prime directive: replicate yourself.

But in your world, if a man was acting like an animal, he’d come up to you not with hello, but instead a simple question: DTF ? If you were in a conversation with another man, he’d insult the man or maybe punch him in the face to win your approval. And you’d say yes or no solely on his genetics and appearance.

No dinners, no dates, no concerts, no gifts. Find a semi-private place and get it on. Don’t worry too much about being seen. It will all be over quickly. All men would be premature ejaculators, focused solely on quick intercourse and ejaculation. And you wouldn’t complain, right? That’s the nature of animals, right?

Is that the world you want? If not, stop making it so damn difficult for men to even approach you. Stop being so passive and coy, playing games, testing men, with your Cinderella expectations that your Prince Charming will take care of you financially forever even if you make a good living, or have an equal or higher income.

You want equality? That means more than just equal pay for equal work. In the work arena, women don’t have any trouble taking the lead and asking for what they want while accepting “no” gracefully. Why should it be any different in the dating and mating world?

There is a dating app that you should love: Tinder. Totally animal, all based on outward appearance. Are you hot enough? Next time you get a match try messaging first and say something more attractive than “Hello”.

That might be a good first step to learning to be assertive and ask for what you want.