Great article. Brave of you to write it. I really related to your dilemma.

Have you found that when a woman wants an NSA Fuck Buddy style relationship, kissing is often just too intimate?

Or she wants you to do her good, but starfishes and doesn't reciprocate at all? She just wants to get "pounded and jackhammered".

Or when the sex is mutually good, she has something going on in her life and eventually ask for money for the rent or her kids which ruins everything for me and ends the arrangement?

If I wanted to pay for impersonal sex with no kissing, there are lots of gorgeous young escorts willing to provide that service.

If I were wealthy, I could be a sugar daddy. Alas, not.

Bad sex is worse than no sex. Sex for money often is a bad bargain.

Even if we are only having sex, I want to feel her desire for me. I want to know her as a person and hope she feels the same. I just don't want to be "in love" or maintain a "relationship". But her pleasure really is my pleasure. I savor her "slutiness".

As a guy, I must be physically attracted to a woman to want to have sex with her. At 72 years young, P.I.V. isn't nearly as easy to achieve or as much fun as giving oral including mutual touching and lots of kissing. And a drawer full of sex toys for her to choose from.

A stressed woman with many demands outside the bedroom might really benefit from some good casual sex. Yet can be turned off by the age difference. It is the older man who is going to put her satisfaction first and isn't going to invade her life and want to "get involved" or "fall in love". The last thing I want to do is leave some wonderful woman a widow.

God, I miss being touched and touching back, staying fully present in the moment. Life is short. Enjoy it while you can.