All bets are off if your partner is a narcissist as a result of deep childhood trauma. None of these tips apply in that situation.

They never believe they are anything less than perfect. All problems in their relationships are the fault of the other person. They take no responsibility.

They cannot feel real love because they cannot feel empathy.

They are so secretly insecure, they will need to put their partner down in order to feel superior.

Most importantly, they never seek help and they never get well.

They can be charming when they want to be, to get the attention they need. They can be talented, attractive, sexy, successful, they can be anything but real.

A relationship with a narcissist cannot be saved. And yet once they are gone, you will miss them as much as you miss any addiction. Because they are masters at getting you addicted to them.

All you can do it pity them. And forgive them. And be angry at them, the pain they cause, the lost years of hoping things will change.

They never chose to be a narcissist. They were small children, unwanted, victimized, denigrated, unloved. The sins of the parents passed to the children.

It is a sad realization to accept that their condition is incurable. Stop wating for them to discoverd self-awareness.