Adam, you are spot on in your observations.

Yes, the author had my blood boiling in the first few paragraphs when she called all men “creeps”.

Indeed,, a 30 year old pursuing a 16 year old might be a creep. At 16 she has little to offer besides her youth and beauty. That is a 14 year age difference.

Is a 64 year old man pursuing a 50 year old woman also a creep? Same 14 year age difference. It is clear the author has some issues and strong biases against men that she tries to hide with her excellent intellect.

As a man ages, it gets more difficult to get and maintain an erection. Even men with AD still desire sex even if they can no longer engage in intercourse. They get pleasure by providing pleasure.

If a woman has that same mental desire, some good lube can make up for what nature isn’t providing.

There is no magic lube that gives men an erection sufficient to copulate. Viagra and Cialis don’t work for all men the way lube works for all women if the desire is present. Women’s sexual desire is equal to or greater than men’s and her capabilities far exceed men’s.

If it is the man who must pursue and perform, why should he not be attracted to someone he finds arousing? Often that is someone younger. Who is the author to judge what two consenting adults do in their private lives?

Is that 64 year old a “predator” who is “grooming” the 50 year old? Get real. The author is just angry not only at the man who played her but at her 16 year old self for falling for that act.

And that 50 year old woman the 64 year old man pursues? it isn’t just her looks. She takes care of herself, dresses and acts more youthful than an elderly woman. She stays up with current cultural styles in fashion, business, music and entertainment. She believes in life long learning. She has a passport and has traveled internationally alone. Often she is still actively pursuing her passions both work related and recreationally. Age is not nearly as relevant as behavior and attitude. There are woman who have given up and let themselves go at 40.

Over 50, both partners ought to be financially independent.

Franky, these days we are in a strange dynamic in society that seems like everybody is angry all the time that they aren’t getting what they want. The operative belief is it is all someone else’s fault.

So one group hates everybody outside the group and both sides blame the other for their loneliness and lack of success and happiness.

The great thing about aging is the urge to mate is much less insistent and the need to grab at every opportunity isn’t present. If a woman cannot add something to my life and vice versa, it is better to be single.

I date myself and I am damn good company.